Last weekend, we were at a friend’s house for their son’s first birthday party. Tim and I always feel a little out of place at these kid birthdays; just picking out a gift is a whole ordeal. I am always so overwhelmed aimlessly wondering the aisles of Buy Buy Baby trying to find something appropriate.
My awkwardness aside, the party was a lot of fun. It’s always nice to see this group of friends. It’s even nicer to hand their kid back to them when the kid inevitably grows fussy. While I was eyeing the snacks, I started talking to my friend Jen. She also works in a school, and we often share student stories and teacher problems. She asked me, “How’s your year going?” I instantly signed and started discussing my classes. Then we stopped me and said, “No no no- how’s YOUR year going?” She knows I’m doing my year of self-love and follows my journey on Instagram.
This simple question caught me off guard, and I found myself thinking back to it the rest of the weekend. We don’t often ask ourselves how we are doing without thinking about work and the many day to day responsibilities. Yet, this is exactly what we need to be doing. Being mindful and present is all about consistently checking in with yourself, acknowledging your feelings- both mental and physical, and accepting the current situation.
I’m grateful for the friendly reminder from Jen. I need to make the effort to also ask others how THEY are doing- not how their classes are, not how work is going, nor how their family situation is, but instead- how are THEY?
After the party, Tim and I went to our favorite sushi restaurant. Since the whole 30, this was the first time having both rice and wine. And let me tell you, that glass of Cabernet was delicious.
Hope YOU are doing well. Don’t forget to check in with yourself.